Thomas - I hear ya! I've read up on at least Paolo's missives ...
My small perspective, I last made a concerted effort with MDA back with Rose, across a Windows and Unix system for a 5 mil line monster legacy system, with a team of hundreds spread across the globe. Nightmares! We got it to mostly work though, but I learned to truly hate Rose, and IBM Architect ... forget it.
Now I'm on a smaller, new project and found EA - Eureka! Frankly, EA's sins are so small in comparison, as you say, I just don't care. Maybe a few years from now I'll be a jaded EA expert though ...

Yes the scripts are crude - but that's the point, simple but very easy to change. OK if you want the PhD make an Add-In, but thank your stars you have the add-in capability so you can get the PhD - if you want!
"Multiple select. Multiple windows for diagrams/project browser. Copy/paste."
All good - but little to me frankly. After the horrors of my old system these are peanuts.