This is a very interesting discussion, with Paolo on the side of nominative determinism and the importance of giving something the exact, correct name, and Glassboy on the side of Shakespeare: "A rose by any name..." I suspect the answer is somewhere in between. Sure, the authors of UML could have chosen any name for their stick figure, but the fact that they chose an existing English language word with specific meaning suggests that they wanted the metaphorical baggage that comes with that word. However, I don't think you should try to understand a UML model by saying "in English, actor means <X> so that's how we should interpret it in UML"; you have to be aware of the metaphor in the name without staring directly at it.
(Neil) KP knows me too well! He HAS been interacting with me for over a decade! Yes I am on the side of normative determinism, for a number of reasons:
I got started on the modelling lark after reading Jean Raymond Abrial's 1970's paper Data Semantics where he says (paraphrased): "The reason we can't build systems that work is that we can't unambiguously tell each other what we want." More than 40 years later, my experience has been that ""The reason we can't build systems that work is that we can't unambiguously tell each other what we want."

In general discussion, we can be a bit free and easy with language, however, when we need to be precise, we need to be precise. The Helsinki principle should therefore apply.
Not withstanding the metaphorical baggage coming along with choosing a specific term for a concept, one of the requirements of the semantics of a language is that that concept has a particular naming form and the two need to agree in order for the language to work. How many of you have experienced being
asked to do something in "words of
command"?
The meaning of words does change, but I have argued for many decades, that the current trend is to devolution, not evolution! The meaning of some words is now impossible to determine. We are NOT corrected when we use a word
incorrectly. On live radio, I once accused the editor of the Australian Macquarie Dictionary of "adding to the entropy of the language".
A rose may smell as sweet whatever it's name, but if I tell you something is a rose and I actually hand you a stinging nettle, you'll appreciate the importance of normative determinism...

And for what it's worth, "going back to the source" and thinking about the "metaphorical baggage" that KP mentioned, I believe, has allowed me to better understand how to produce useful, normative, models of reality - the proof will be in the pudding which we're currently baking.
"Rigour is your friend!"
Paolo