OK - this is not recommended use of the Activity or Composite Element structures, and I have no idea how it holds up in any model processing. I won't document it in the Help. BUT...
The principle is that if a non-composite element just happens to have one or more child diagrams, when you make the element composite EA identifies the first diagram in the list as the child diagram of that composite element. And that diagram remains the child regardless of where it wanders off to.
Like this: Create the required number of Activity elements in whatever diagrams are appropriate. Let's have three, called A1, A2 and A3. In A1's diagram, right-click on A1 and make it composite, then develop the child diagram for it. Let's call this diagram Alpha. So, Alpha is the child diagram of A1, and that is the diagram displayed if you click on A1.
Now, in the Project Browser move Alpha underneath A2. In A2's diagram, right-click on A2 and make it composite. This picks up Alpha as A2's child diagram and if you click on A2, Alpha displays. If you go back and click on A1, Alpha displays there too.
Repeat that last paragraph for A3. You now have Alpha as the child diagram of A1, A2 and A3. And any other elements, if you keep moving it on.