Here are the books I bought, and some comments:
UML Distilled - My favorite so far. Clear, concise, and had a very nice summary of development process options (e.g. iterative vs. waterfall, adaptive vs. predictive, etc. Many good insights and just the right amount of history of UML (to put it in an appropriate context). Liked that the author wasn't overly pedantic and beholden to the letter of the UML law as it were (e.g. it's ok to deviate and include non-UML diagrams where it's handy to do so). Nice comments on what UML is and what it is not; what it can accomplish and what it can't. A fabulous intro.
Learning UML 2.0 - Have only gotten to the Use Case chapter, but I've had good luck with O'Reilly books throughout my career.
UML Demystified - I've had good luck with other books in this series, so I picked it up (Databases Demystified is very nice). Am on the Use Case chapter. I like having multiple sources for each concept. It's a bit like the Dummies series but has more content, is more concise, and isn't beholden to all the annoying cutesiness of the Dummies series.
UML 2 for Dummies - Ok, so this is scraping the bottom of the barrel. But it got good reviews on Amazon and I found it cheap. Never know where a breakthrough gem will appear for understanding a particular concept. I like to give myself every opportunity to get it right.
So... that's enough elementary UML books.
I'm looking for a few good books on basic software development (not just OOP). Things like Software Configuration Management--e.g. using concurrent versioning (I use WinCVS at a basic level and don't know much about branching, merging, etc), numbering software releases, etc.
Code Complete by Steve McConnell seems highly recommended. Would that be a good choice for me as a scripter / non-programmer? Rapid Application Development by McConnell, though seemingly long in the tooth edition-wise, also seems highly regarded. But I need to learn as much as I can about Software Configuration Management as I can. Picked up a cheap copy of "Code Leader" and that has a chapter on CVS. But I'd like more info.
For OOP stuff, I found a cheap copy of OOP Demystified and like that so far. I'll check out the other books on OOP recommended here when I'm finished with that one. And I suspect I'll need to read about Patterns at some point--that will come later.
Thanks again for all the great suggestions and help.
Dana