Patrick,
Although in theory it can be done, working in parallel (an then merging afterwards) is just insane.
So you you have a big problem.

Since you both started from the same file you should still have something to go on. EA will be able to determine that some of the elements/packages are in fact the same thing (based on the GUID).
So for these things you should be able to use the diff utitility to merge the changes.
I suggest you choose one model as the "baseline" and export the other model to xmi.
Then use the diff utitlity to merge the other xmi file into the baseline.
Then you will have to figure out what to do with all the "duplicate" elements.
You probably created some classes that your coworker has also created. Merging these classes is a bit more difficult.
Best it so choose one as the baseline again (the one that has been used mosed) and then move everything for the copy to the baseline. That includes attributes and operations, usages on diagrams, connectors, usages as type of attributes, parameters, objects...
If you have a lot of duplicates you might want to consider writing a program/script to automate some of the work.
Then, after you have finished and everything is merged, I suggest you integrate a version control system into EA (that means exclusive checkouts) or setup "security" with regular baselines (and maybe auditing) to make sure you never ever get into this mess again.
Geert